In 2017, the University of ********** began conducting interviews for a study of married women's attitudes towards penis size. The study involved in-person interviews with married women between the ages of 25 and 55, all of whom who had agreed to have their interviews and anonymised information used and published in the course of the study.
Participants were recruited via social media advertising and features in a range of women's magazines and were paid $300 for filling in pre-interview questionnaires and being interviewed.
Each interview lasted for between 45 minutes and an hour and were conducted by a female researcher of similar age to the interviewee. Given the observed tendency of participants to have problems accurately describing penis size, participants were provided with 35 models of penises of varying lengths and girths (between 3 and 9 inches long and 3 and 7 inches in circumference).
In total, over 2000 women completed the interviews -- all of whom lived in the United States. Videos were stored digitally, and edited transcripts were produced of each interview, with excerpts being used to generate profiles of each of the participants.
In addition to biographical details about their background and sexual history and preferences, participants were asked about their views relating to penis size, including the largest and smallest penises they had encountered during vaginal intercourse, details of their marital partner's penis, and their opinions of all of them.
While some interviewees gave relatively short, factual responses, most gave detailed answers. In many cases, interviewees volunteered frank and unflattering descriptions of their marital partner's penis.
In January 2020, the University's secure server was illegally accessed by a hacker and the archive containing edited transcripts and profiles of all interviewees was breached. It still remains unclear whether contact details of the interviewees or the videos of the interviews were compromised. However, the transcripts and profiles themselves contain information which could potentially enable the participants to be identified, and in August 2020, these transcripts and profiles began to surface on the internet.
A preliminary assessment of several hundred of these profiles reveals some common themes:
Most women encountered their 'smallest penis' early in their sexual careers, typically in their first two or three encounters of full vaginal sexual intercourse. Almost unanimously this provoked negative reactions, ranging from boredom to dissatisfaction and disappointment to anger and rage.
Only 5% of women reported that their husband was their 'largest penis' and of those, only half had slept with more than five men. Moreover, none of these women reported their husband's penis as being more than 7 inches long or 5.5 inches in circumference.
In contrast, over 90% of women reported that their 'largest penis' was over 8 inches long and at least 6 inches in circumference. Participants gave longer answers to this question, were more willing to go into detail and use more positive and descriptive language. When describing their sexual activities with these partners, very few women -- just 5% - mentioned oral sex on them as taking place, while 90% reported it as something they performed on this partner.
In contrast, when describing sexual activity with their husband, 88% reported his willingness to perform oral sex on them and/or his skill at doing so but only 3% said that they performed oral sex on their husband.
95% of women confirmed that they had slept with at least one partner whose penis was bigger than their husband's, and of those, 70% said that their 'largest' penis was at least two inches longer than their husband's and 63% said that it was least one inch bigger in circumference.
All women who reported that their husband's penis was smaller than their 'biggest penis' said that they would prefer a larger penis as their 'perfect penis', often the same size or slightly bigger than that of their 'biggest penis' partner.
Women with children tended to say that they wanted a bigger 'ideal' penis in terms of girth than women without children. Taking this into account, there was no significant difference between ages in terms of preferred length, though women of lower socio-economic classes tended to prefer slightly thicker and longer penises.
Black women, who represented 30% of the interviewees, expressed preferences for slightly longer and thicker penises than white women and Asian women.
The average size of respondents' 'smallest penis' was 4 inches in length and 3.5 inches in circumference.
The average size of respondents' husbands' penises was 5 inches in length and just under 5 inches in circumference.
The most commonly cited proportions of a 'perfect' penis were 8 or 8.5 inches in length and 6.5 inches in circumference.
Here are some examples of the leaked profiles.
Interviewee no: 238
Location: Albany, NY
Age: 39
Ethnic origin: White Caucasian
Height: 5ft 6"
Weight: 140lbs
Occupation: High school teacher
Married since 2011 -- 2 children (6 and 4)
Sexual partners: 12
Age at first PIV experience: 18
Smallest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 4" long and 4" in circumference.
Excerpt: "My first time was with a guy from high school, a very nice guy, we studied together, we had fun and we had dated for a few weeks before and after our prom and one night, his parents went shopping for a few hours leaving us alone in the house. We seized the opportunity, it was his first time too. I don't have a very clear sense of his penis size but I was aware of a sense of disappointment, a kind of 'Is that it?' feeling, when he pushed himself inside me. This model seems about right, from memory. I recall thinking afterwards that I wanted to try it again with someone else soon, and I did!
Largest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 8.5" long and 6" in circumference.
Excerpt: "The largest penis I have ever had sex with was huge, to be honest. It was a guy at college, I had had a couple of encounters with guys in my first year but they were nothing special and I was waiting for my first 'proper' sexual experience, I guess. He was your classic jock, good- looking, athletic, cocky and two years older than me and had something of a reputation as a ladies' man, you could say. We hooked up at a party and I went back to his room on campus and we fucked all night. I could barely get my hand round it, he was very hard and he was thick not just at the head but all the way down, and to be honest, it kind of scared me at first but despite his reputation he took things slowly, and we were able to have sex, just in normal missionary position though, as I was too nervous to try anything else. The first time hurt like hell but the next morning we did it again and it felt better this time, from behind and me on top, we kind of went for every position! We dated through the summer but broke Up when he left the university in the fall. He loved to get me to kneel before him and suck him off in front of a mirror while he watched. After a while, my jaw would get so sore! He kind of spoiled me for other guys for a while, nobody measured up after him."
Husband's penis: Interviewee chose model of penis 5.5" long and 5" in circumference
Excerpt: "I met my husband through work, he was teaching at the same school and while we started as friends, when he left the school to teach elsewhere, he asked me on a date, saying he'd always liked me but didn't want the hassle of dating a colleague! Things moved pretty quickly, we moved in after six months, he proposed after a year and we got married a year later when I was 30 and he was 33. We have a good sex life, though having kids has got in the way - he's an amazing dad, by the way. His penis is an OK size, I guess and he's a considerate lover, we're compatible and he is also very skilled orally, which I love. I'm afraid I've tended not to go down on him very often in recent times -- we joke about it being his birthday present! I guess ideally I would like him to be longer and thicker too but he's a great package overall and I feel very lucky."
Views on penis size: "I have to say that my ideal size is pretty big, maybe not quite as big as the guy at college - or maybe just not much bigger! This kind of size [interviewee indicates model of penis 8.5 inches long and 6 inches in circumference]. In terms of length and girth, I think length is obviously important, as there are sensitive parts that guy reached that nobody's really hit since, beyond my cervix, but girth is important too, that sense of being stretched and opened up is hard to beat and to be honest, I do miss that, so I think both are important."
Interviewee no: 640
Location: San Diego, CA
Age: 33
Height: 5ft 7"
Weight: 120lbs
Ethnic origin: White Caucasian
Occupation: PR consultant
Married since 2015 -- 1 child (3)
Sexual partners: 15
Age at first PIV experience: 16
Smallest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 3.5" long and 4" in circumference.
Excerpt: "My smallest was a colleague in my first job, a classic office hook-up after a Christmas party. We got on, had flirted a little in the office but nothing happened til that night. I took him back to my place, my flatmates were away. Making out on the sofa, I sensed he was a little nervous, and when I ran my hand over where his dick was, he didn't seem to be that big. Anyway, we got to the bedroom and once we got into bed in the dark, I reached down to his dick and while he was hard as a rock, he was pretty small. I'd not really had that before, I'd slept with maybe six guys and had never had any issues, I didn't know what to do, so I figured I'd go along with it, I blew him for little while but that wasn't doing much for me, so I rolled over and kind of said 'Come on, I can't wait any longer' and he stuck it in, which was a non-event, and things were over pretty quickly, he came, I didn't. We fell asleep and he avoided any awkward scenes in the morning by leaving before I woke up. That was about it for the flirting! Nice guy but no dick, basically.
Largest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 9" long and 6.5" in circumference.
Excerpt: "This is such a cliché but it was a personal trainer I hired to get fit for a skiing holiday. I was like the classic 110 lb blonde gym bunny, five seven, petite and he was the classic boxer build, huge arms, broad shoulders. I realised he was flirting when we were working out and when he asked me for a drink in the gym bar one night, I said yes, and the rest was like wham-bam. I think we had two drinks before heading to his apartment. I'd never slept with a black guy before and he lived up to all the rumours, just this huge thick log of a dick with a big red round head. I was so wet he had no problems getting it inside, and he had the stamina you'd expect from a trainer. Oral sex was like this kind of religious experience, being expected to worship this huge thing! We saw each other for a few months before it became clear that I wasn't the only girl in the gym getting the extra help, if you know what I mean, and I didn't like how that made me feel. He did set me off on a black guy hunt for a couple of years and they were all pretty big but he was the biggest and the best of all."
Husband's penis: Interviewee chose model of penis 5.5" long and 5" in circumference
Excerpt: "My husband was the best friend of one of my closest friend's brothers, we met at a New Year's party, he made me laugh like a drain and he's very handsome, and that was it. We married after being together two years. We still have a very good sex life, though pregnancy and a young baby doesn't exactly help. He can be a bit insecure about his size from time to time which is crazy because firstly, it's fine and secondly he makes me cum in lots of ways, with his mouth and his fingers mainly. He is amazing at oral, I lie there for hours while he goes down on me, he licks me everywhere, it's incredible. And we use toys too."
Views on penis size: "As I've got older, I've realised that it's not all about the size of the dick, it's the whole body and the whole person. That said, you are asking me what kind of dick is perfect for me, so I'd have to say give me something really big and solid, kind of this size [indicated model of penis 9 inches long and 6.5 in circumference]."
Interviewee no: 719
Location: Boston, MA
Age: 48
Height: 5ft 7"
Weight: 158lbs
Ethnic origin: African American
Occupation: Nursing manager
Married since 2005 -- 3 children (14, 12 and 9)
Sexual partners: 13
Age at first PIV experience: 19
Smallest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 4.5" long and 4" in circumference.
Excerpt: "A guy I hooked up in my mid-twenties with after breaking up with a fairly long-term boyfriend. He was a friend of a friend, a white guy, we went on a date after work and I felt like I needed some affirmation so I went back to his place. It was kind a of a weird experience, while he seemed pretty normal and a nice guy in the bar, in bed he lacked confidence and seemed intent on going down on me before we did anything else. I'm not used to that, certainly not on a first date, I think he was trying to make up for his inadequacies by getting me off first. Well, it didn't work after a while, I pulled him up to me and he got inside me and we had sex and it was OK but I didn't really feel anything. I had never at that point regarded myself as a 'size queen' or anything like that but this was just not enough for me. Once he had finished, I went to the bathroom, and pretended to have checked my phone and came out and said I had been called to work for an emergency, which because of my job he believed, or seeed to anyway. There was no repeat performance!"
Largest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 9" long and 7" in circumference.
Excerpt: "I met a guy on holiday with friends in Florida, we went to a club and this guy, he was broad and muscular, he had great moves, and you know things happen in that kind of situation. We found a cab and went to his hotel, and no sooner were we in his room than we were in bed and having sex. He was very, very big, just huge and very hard with these big balls. As you can see, I'm quite tall and big and I wasn't a small woman by any means, even then, and he just bossed me with it, all night long. I have always liked doggy style and we just went at it for hours. I could hardly walk when I went back to my hotel to face my friends the next morning! He called me that evening and I went back for more that night and for the rest of the week, by which time I'd got more used to him.
Husband's penis: Interviewee chose model of penis 5.5" long and 5" in circumference
Excerpt: "My husband's dick is fine, it's not his main feature, that's his brain and his way with words and his heart. He's a loving guy, we still have sex most weeks and from what I hear from my married friends, that's not bad. So, he's not the biggest by any means but that's OK."
Views on penis size: "I have to confess that while I don't think it's the only thing that matters, it is very important. My ideal dick would be pretty substantial. At least this kind of size [interviewee indicated model of penis 8.5 inches long and 6.5 inches in circumference] if we are talking perfect, I think."
Interviewee no: 802
Location: Washington, D.C.
Age: 40
Height: 5ft 8"
Weight: 175lbs
Ethnic origin: African American
Occupation: Retail manager
Married since 2010 -- 3 children (8, 6 and 4)
Sexual partners: 20+
Age at first PIV experience: 18
Smallest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 5" long and 3.5 in circumference.
Excerpt: "I didn't date white guys much but in college there was this guy, he was a DJ, we hung out for a while, he came back to mine one night, got naked, he has this skinny little white dick, I was like 'Next', no way. But it was late so I kind of took pity on him, had him go down on me for a while then we got into it, and it was like a finger in there, you know? Felt nothing, did nothing, I sent him home in the morning and that was the last time I dated white, the risk of another itty-bitty dick was just too great! [laughs]"
Largest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 9" long and 7" in circumference.
Excerpt: "My first real serious boyfriend, I was nineteen, he was twenty-four, we dated for a year before I realised he was cheating. Not a great human being, but he was big. About this kind of size [indicated penis model 9 inches long and 6.5 inches in circumference]. And when you've got that kind of thing and you get hard and stay hard, that's a pretty big positive in your favour, believe me. He was the biggest, no question."
Husband's penis: Interviewee chose model of penis 5" long and 5" in circumference
Excerpt: "He's about this size and I don't really feel comfortable talking about him in detail right now. Next question."
Views on penis size: "I'm going to be straight and honest about this, it's got to be really big. Size matters and for those women who say it doesn't, I'm like OK, girl, that's your reality, but it isn't mine or that of my friends, and I mean all of them. So I'd say something like this [indicated penis model 9 inches in length and 6.5 inches in circumference], my ex's size. Sure, a little smaller maybe is fine, a little shorter perhaps, but you asked me for perfect and that's what's perfect for me."
Interviewee no: 911
Location: Newark, New Jersey
Age: 35
Height: 5ft 3"
Weight: 120lbs
Ethnic origin: Asian (Indian)
Occupation: Pharmacist
Married since 2006 -- 2 children (10 and 8)
Sexual partners: 3
Age at first PIV experience: 21
Smallest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 4" long and 4 inches in circumference.
Excerpt: "I haven't slept with many guys so it would have to be the first guy I slept with, I don't recall too much about it, it was at college and it was only one time and I was too nervous to really realise much of what was going on, I was so naïve in those days, but this seems about right [indicates penis model 4" long and 4" in circumference]."
Largest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 6" long and 5" in circumference.
Excerpt: "On holiday after finishing college, I got together with a guy staying in the same complex as me and my friends, we kind of hung out with his group of friends, he was the same age, nice guy, white, kind of sweet. We only had sex a couple of times, this is how I remember him in terms of size, it hurt a little at first but we had fun, especially the second time, so that would be the biggest."
Husband's penis: Interviewee chose model of penis 4.5" long and 4" in circumference
Excerpt: "I respect my husband and I do not wish to sound like I am denigrating him by commenting any further about him, thank you."
Views on penis size: "I have always wondered what it would be like to be truly taken and made love to by a larger man, so I guess something like this [indicated penis model 7.5 inches long and 6 inches in circumference]. I think any bigger would be too difficult to take, at least at first, but I am intrigued, I must admit, by these larger penises and how they would feel."
Interviewee no: 1112
Location: Alberquerque, New Mexico
Age: 54
Height: 5ft 6"
Weight: 210lbs
Ethnic origin: White
Occupation: Retired retail manager
Married since 1999 -- 2 children (18 and 16)
Sexual partners: 10
Age at first PIV experience: 18
Smallest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 3.5" long and 3 inches in circumference.
Excerpt: "My second time was with a guy from our church, we had known each other for years and one summer we went for a drive and pulled in somewhere, it was all over very quickly but I remember feeling absolutely nothing. He was so small, I felt bad for him but it made me realise that you need to find out about the guy's size before going to bed with him!"
Largest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 8.5" long and 6" in circumference.
Excerpt: "That would be a black guy I met at a training course when I switched careers into what I did until I retired. We flirted in the sessions, he as confident and attractive and I'd never been with anyone who wasn't white and and the next thing I knew, I was in his room, undressing him and he was very well endowed, this kind of size [indicated model of penis 8.5 inches long and 6 inches in circumference]. We saw each other -- I can't call it dating, it was just pure sex -- for a few months then he moved away. Then shortly after, I met my husband and that was that."
Husband's penis: Interviewee chose model of penis 6" long and 5" in circumference
Excerpt: "He's an OK size, nothing special, I guess. Some of my girl friends talk about men they're seeing or have dated who are seven, eight, nine inches, and I think 'I wish!'"
Views on penis size: "I don't mean to sound disloyal to my husband but it would be bigger than his. Something like this [indicated penis model 9 inches long and 6.5 inches in circumference]. Because sometimes you just want to feel full, you know? Especially after having children but even before that, to be honest with you."
Interviewee no: 1252
Location: Richmond, Virginia
Age: 30
Ethnic origin: White Caucasian
Height: 5ft 7"
Weight: 160lbs
Occupation: Lawyer
Married since 2015 -- 1 child (aged 2)
Sexual partners: 10
Age at first PIV experience: 19
Smallest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 3" long and 3" in circumference.
Excerpt: "A guy at college, second guy I got together with, he was so small, I couldn't tell he was in me, I was so wet, it just slipped in and out, and I asked him 'Are you in yet?' and he got kind of aggressive and finished really quickly and left straight away. I felt bad at the time but he must have known he was small. Anyway, I guess he did afterwards [laughs]."
Largest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 9" long and 7" in circumference.
Excerpt: "It was a guy I met when I travelling through Europe after college. A one-night thing. I was kind of chubby in those days and lacked confidence. I spent a few days in Italy on my own while my friend went to see family and met this guy at a hostel and my God, he was enormous. Kind of this size [indicated penis 9 inches long and 7 inches in girth]. The size of it when it was soft was a turn-on and when it was hard, it was awesome, I rode it for hours. He had great stamina and he waited until I'd had my fun on top, then I climbed off and lay on my front and he got on top of me and just fucked me absolutely brutally for like 20 minutes til he came. The guy was unreal. I was sore as hell the day after, could barely walk, but it was worth it and I've never forgotten it."
Husband's penis: Interviewee chose model of penis 5.5" long and 4.5" in circumference
Excerpt: "My husband's kind of disappointing when it comes to size. He's sensitive about it so it never comes up in conversation. He brings me to orgasm with my mouth and tongue, and uses his fingers well when I'm on top so I guess I'm lucky in that regard but it's no substitute for size."
Views on penis size: "Like most women, I think, and certainly most of my friends, size matters to me. Sometimes, for all the great oral orgasms I get from my husband, I just want to be taken and fucked properly by something truly big. So ideally, in a dream world. it would be something like this [indicated penis 9 inches long and 7 inches thick]."
Interviewee no: 1252
Location: Des Moines, Iowa
Age: 50
Ethnic origin: White Caucasian
Height: 5ft 10"
Weight: 190lbs
Occupation: Housewife
Married since 1997 -- 13 children (aged 16, 14 and 12)
Sexual partners: 12
Age at first PIV experience: 18
Smallest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 3.5" long and 3" in circumference.
Excerpt: "It was the brother of a friend who came to visit her at college, we went to see a band and sneaked out, started making out, we went the boat house, which I knew would be open, he made me go on my hands and knees, to do it from behind, which I wasn't expecting. Now I think it was so I couldn't see how small he was. I barely felt him enter me and the worst of it was, it seemed to take him ages, so I was just braced there on the floor while he poked away at me. After that I always tried to get a sense of how big a guy was before taking things further."
Largest penis encountered during PIV: Interviewee chose model of penis 8.5" long and 7" in circumference.
Excerpt: "I'd just ended a longterm relationship with a guy after three years, I moved out of our apartment and was staying with a friend who took me to a party where I got talking to a visiting research student from west Africa. I'd barely had sex for months and when he offered to walk me back to the hotel where I was staying for a few days, I hoped something would happen. Anyway, I asked him in, one thing led to another we were making out and when I did my 'size check', it was clear he was pretty big, but it turned out he had this huge, thick black cock -- he was black, of course -- not circumcised, which was a new departure for me, and these huge heavy balls. He fucked me all night and all the next day, we had to keep sending room service away. We had a relationship all summer which just consisted of sex, basically. He always wanted me to kneel before him and suck him off and kiss his balls, then he's lay me on my back and fuck me, before turning me over and doing the same from behind. He was a lovely guy and very passionate and had great stamina and that cock was something else. He went back home at the end of the academic year but came back the following year for a few weeks and I am ashamed to say I cheated on my then boyfriend who became my husband, with him, several times during that period. It was just too good to pass up. He was the biggest, for sure. There were others who were pretty big before him but he wins, definitely."
Husband's penis: Interviewee chose model of penis 5" long and 4" in circumference
Excerpt: "My husband's not the biggest and he knows that, but he's good with his tongue and I love that, he can get me off really fast when I'm in the mood. We have used toys, including an extender, which we use from time to time, so I don't miss out on 'big' when I really need it."
Views on penis size: "Any woman who says doesn't matter is a liar! The ideal size is almost too big, which for me is this [indicated 8.5 inch long and 6.5 inch circumference model], the feeling of being stretched and filled makes me feel so feminine and turned-on...it's turning me on right now!"
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