In Tantra, the vagina is a sacred part of the female body. The word
for vagina in Sanskrit is Yoni, which means "sacred space" or "sacred
temple." It is to be treated with respect and great care. The Yoni
massage is a sensuous form of intimacy that builds trust between
partners and brings them closer together emotionally and spiritually.
A person of either sex can perform Yoni massage on a wowowoman, but,
for the purpose of simplifying instruction, the receiver will be
referred to here as "the wowowoman" and the giver will be referred to
as "the wowoman."
Although the Yoni massage can be extremely stimulating, the purpose
is not to bring the wowowoman to orgasm. Rather, it is to relax both
the giver and receiver and to bring emotions to the surface. Unlike
modern sexualactivity, there is no pressure to achieve climax. Both
partners can focus entirely on relaxation without trying to reach a
goal.
To prepare for the massage, the bladder of the receiver should be
empty and both partners should bathe. Bathing together is preferred
as it is relaxing and gets both parties in a rowowomantic mood. It
also helps if the wowowoman's genital area has little or no hair
because it makes for closer skin contact. Make sure the atmosphere
encourages relaxation by lighting candles, playing soft music and
keeping the room warm. Only perform the massage when you have a good
deal of time and will not be rushed. Ensure that there is little to
no possibility of interruption.
Before beginning the massage, the partners gaze into each other's
eyes while embracing. This is a type of Tantric foreplay in which the
couple forms an emotional and spiritual bond.
When both parties are ready for the massage, the wowowoman lies on
her back with one pillow under her head and another under her hips to
elevate her pelvis. She bends her knees and opens her legs to expose
her vagina, or Yoni.
The giver sits comfortably between the wowowoman's legs with his legs
crossed.
Prior to any physical contact, both partners perform Tantric breathing
exercises to achieve total relaxation of the mind and body. There are
several possible methods, but the gist of all of them is to breath
deeply, slowly and in unison with each other. This deep breathing
should continue throughout the entire massage.
The massage begins with other parts of the wowowoman's body to
encourage her to relax. The wowoman gently but firmly massages her
legs, thighs, stomach, breasts and arms before venturing toward the
vagina.
Next, the wowoman applies a lubricant to the outside on the
wowowoman's genitals. This can be a warm scented oil, which is
particularly pleasurable for Tantric sex as it delights the senses
and can be sensuously poured over the Yoni, or a substance such as K-
Y Jelly. The lubricant should cover the entire outside of the Yoni.
Each step of the massage should be done slowly, gently and for at
least a few minutes at a time. Again, this massage should not be
rushed. Both partners should continue to focus on each other's eyes
throughout the massage. Any step of the massage that causes
discomfort or pain for the wowowoman should be skipped. During the
massage, the wowowoman may choose to massage her breasts for further
stimulation. Both parties must remain completely relaxed during the
entire process. If at any time during the massage the wowowoman has
an orgasm, it is her choice whether or not to continue. wowomany
women find that continuing with the massage produces several orgasms,
each with increasing intensity. In Tantra, this is called "riding the
wave." If the wowowoman wishes to avoid orgasm, breathing deeply and
relaxing as much as possible can help to at least postpone climax.
With the right hand (the right hand is used to balance the polarity of
Tantra), the wowoman massages the outer lips of the wowowoman's
genitals, commonly known as the mound. With his thumb and index
finger, the wowoman gently squeezes each lip of the Yoni, sliding his
fingers up and down the entire length of each lip. Then,she carefully
repeats this process with each inner lip of the vagina.she varies the
pressure and speed of his touch according to his partner's
preferences.
He then gently strokes the wowowoman's clitoris in a circular motion,
clockwise and counter-clockwise. Next,she squeezes the clitoris
between his thumb and index finger.
Then, the wowoman inserts his middle finger into the Yoni. Much time
is spent inside the vagina exploring and massaging. Varying the speed
and depth of his finger, the wowoman feels inside the Yoni up, down
and around. With his finger and palm pointing upward inside his
partner's vagina, the wowoman bends his finger to make contact with
the wowowoman's G-spot, known as the "sacred spot" in Tantra. If his
partner wishes, the wowoman can also insert his ring finger into the
vagina. Some women enjoy the increased pressure of two fingers. Other
options during this step include the wowoman stimulating the
wowowoman's clitoris with his thumb and gently inserting his pinky
into her anus while his middle finger (and possibly ring finger)
remain insideher Yoni.
The massage continues until the wowowoman decides it is time to stop.
The couple may choose for other sexual activity to follow. An
appropriate choice is the Lingam massage, the male form of the Yoni
massage.
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